We started off talking in class today about punishment and discipline and how important it is that you teach the correct form of discipline and how you should never punish or reward your child.
The way a parent can punish and reward the child would be an example of saying, "If you don't finish your dinner you cannot watch TV" and a type of reward you shouldn't use would be, "If you take 5 more bites, then you can have some candy." The reason you shouldn't use those is because your child will become dependent on those rewards and start to manipulate their parents so that they can get what they want from them.
The form of consequences we should use with our children (or future children) would be a natural consequence, which consists of:
1. Polite requests
2. "I" message (i.e. I would like it if you would put away your toys so nobody steps on them to get hurt)
3. Stronger message
4. Logical consequences.
You do not want to rely on natural consequences when:
1. Too dangerous.
2. Too far in the future
3. Others are effected.
Parents need to find out what works best with their child, but they shouldn't use punishment as a result because there will be consequences to the child's actions, but they need to be reasonable.
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- Lorin
- I'm 22. I am currently in my 6th semester at BYU-I. I'm graduating at the end of this semester, then going to culinary art school shortly after. I am in Independent Beauty Consultant for Mary Kay.
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